One thing I would love to introduce to our D/s dynamic is music. For the most part we always scene in silence, the only sounds being ours. Not that the symphony of guttural moans, shrill screams, flesh being abused and frantic begging aren’t music to my ears, but it would be lovely to have some carefully chosen audio in the background to heighten the emotions even more. I think of it as spices added to a recipe that has been slowly simmering in its own juices, just enough to add to what is naturally delicious without getting in the way or, ironically, dominating it.
To this end Leigh and I, apparently, have different ideas as to what we would like to hear, or perhaps already do in our selves when we are together. My thoughts, feelings and emotions differ from hers, which is to be expected given the unique relationship that is D/s, especially when in the midst of adding a pinch (heh) of BDSM. So we, from time to time, explore genres, themes, artists, etc. hoping to find common ground for us to stand on together.
I’m sure you’re wondering why I, as the Dominant, don’t just play what the fuck I want to. As I have said before to this narrow minded, back ass mindset:
We are equal partners in this. Each brings a unique and proportional skill set to the dynamic. Black is not black without white to make it so. To view it as one simply imposing their will over another is foolhardy and immature. Keep in mind that unless one submits another cannot Dominate. Its 50/50. It’s a power exchange, not a power theft. There can be no surrender unless there is One to conquer.
But I digress…
To date we have only found one piece of music that both of us, upon hearing it, had that “Oh fuck yes” reaction. Leigh would be delicious being held to the flames to this, while I can totally see myself stoking that fire to this as well. You may not agree or like it, which is totally fine with me.
A reminder that we have NOT scened to this. Yet. So please don’t let this cloud your beautiful imaginations when you read my humble efforts.
Perhaps someday there will be a story with an actual soundtrack. We’ll see.