The Greatest Coffee Excuse Is 6AM Monday

Actually, I can think of at least 37 better ones:

  • 5:30 AM Monday
  • Cake
  • Someone else is buying
  • There is extra coffee? Well let’s resolve that crisis now!
  • Did I say cake?
  • Driving home after a brutal work day
  • Driving to work before a brutal work day
  • Having cake at work while someone else is buying
  • Any day that ends in the letter Y
  • Y? Cause its coffee, that’s why!

You get the idea.

A personal aside – it’s truly something when, in essence, complete strangers (if nothing else Peeker Nation™ is strange) contact you to inquire as to your well-being when one has not been online as often. My own personal safety check-in crew.

Yes, I am fine. Thank you for being concerned. My non-blogging life is extremely busy right now plus I am trying to come to grips (not like Leigh’s feathery fingers, unfortunately) with the reality of the apparent success of the blog.

Never did I think that so many would take so quickly so passionately to my humble musings and stories. It’s not even been a third of a year yet, at some point today, we will receive our 20,000th page view. Damn! Peeker Nation™ will probably reach 500 strong by the end of the month.

I was not ready for all of this. Leigh and I are both humbled at the response. We thank you all.

But with all of this comes additional responsibility. Those who Follow you also likely blog and blog well. As in to the point of Following back. And Twitter? Wow.

So right now, while life works me over otherwise, I am trying to find balance between here (us) and here (online). I’ve read in many blogs how the words become not so much a burden on real lives but most certainly a factor. The need to provide content, and good content at that, and the time it takes to do such.

The words on the screen become an entity that cannot be escaped, or at least that’s how they describe it. The blog and social media start to address how 24/7 plays out. And that is not healthy. Ironically that in itself can become fascinating blog fodder (there is an odd word grouping) but I digress.

I will make no secret that Leigh comes first. Heh. And often. She is my…well, she is my. If that needs further explanation I’d afraid I cannot help you.

She is my. Period. So we are working together to help keep priorities straight while embracing new ones into the fold.

Cliff Notes to this point:

  • I’m busy as shit.
  • I am in lust with my wife.
  • She is my.
  • I love coffee.

So TDND™ will be going through some growing pains (Insert Homer Simpson voice “Mmmmmmmm…..pain”). But that is good.

Let me get a second mug of java, then free muse (Insert elevator muzak version of “The Girl From Ipanema”).

– It’s come (heh) to my attention that there is an annual Top 100 Sex Bloggers List as well as award. It’s also come (again?) to light that a requirement is that a blog must be one year old. That hasn’t stopped a number of people from either nominating us or at least mentioning us as a “one to watch.” I don’t even know where to begin. Thank you. I don’t know if they have a “Nookie Of The Year” for a new comer (heh).

– Along those same lines you do not have to be a year old to be considered Best Bondage Blog by the Bondage Awards, which we were stunningly nominated for. Those nominations are still open. If you feel so inclined to vote for us that would be cool.

– I will never campaign for awards or recognition. Ever. If others choose us, I will certainly bring this to light. But you’ll never see daily Tweets or weekly blog posts to this effect. That is not what we are about. We are about SSC D/s, BDSM, coffee, cake and bondage. Oh my.

– A Twitter Follower thought my reference to Chinese MSG was a kinky BDSM term.

– The other day, in the span of less than an hour, I gave three compassionate hugs to people I have no blood or legal relationship to. One desperately needed a hug, another asked if they could share one and the third I gave as a so long. Of these three, one was to a complete stranger I had known for all of ten minutes. Welcome to the way I see the world.

– I do not care how hot, humid and hazy it is, nor that its mid August. Octoberfest beers are out. It is now officially autumn.

– Is it just me or do a lot of Dominant blogs speak of, but aren’t actually?

– The fallout from last week’s Letter To The Frustrated Submissive Wife’s Husband continues. I know of many Peekers™ who had their others read it. Some were successful, others not. Some spoke of rope now in the bedroom with 🙂 while others grew more frustrated. But there was communication.

– Speaking of communication, Leigh and I had an amazing hour long conversation last night. Lately we have not been in sync as we were as well as to our satisfactions. So we talked. And talked. We both agree and acknowledge that very often this evolves via a cyclical process, a kind of “which came first (stop it..) the chicken or the egg?” Was it something I did or am doing , and was that just an evolution of something she did or is doing as a result of something I did or am doing…or not doing. You get the idea.

But we both know, agree and are working to resolve it. We communicated about a lack of communication. Told you it was cyclical. You may be hearing more about this. I know you will be hearing about a most delicious week I have planned for Leigh. It started last night. How did it go? Well, if the manhole cover sized wet spot and repeated screams of “ITS YOUR CUNT!” are any indication I’d say it went well.

Yeah for communication! We communicated all over each other!

– Last week on the blog was heavy on the musings. So in the interest of balance, aside from hearing about what I just described, I am going to try to add at least one Act each to Breaking LeighChain Of RulesSeek And Go Hyde  and The Butterfly Chains. I owe Leigh a poem, might be two. I’ll stop teasing about BDSM On A Budget until I can get some fucking photos. And there may be a short story called “Unscene”. Read into the title what you will.

And a last excuse better than 6AM Monday for more coffee? My mug is empty.

– Scot

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A Peek Back 8-4

Is whupped an acceptable term?

I was that in spades last night. Even hearts. Work whupped me. How much so? It was a chore to sit down, which I hadn’t done all day. The floor beckoned like a siren to the rocks. Well they were actually pillows from the couch.

What, you’ve never jumped from one couch to another to avoid the lava flow river below?

Anyway, I had planned to write Act X of Breaking Leigh, the one where depending on my word count  (I try to keep posts to just over 1000 words) it was very likely the tears might finally flow. But, alas, my brain was so much overcooked oatmeal that I chose not to write.

I will never just vomit words to create content, be a slave to page views, etc., nor I am interested in accumulating scores of Peekers™ for the sake of scores of Peekers™.  If people wish to peek through the keyhole, they are welcome. If their own social networking efforts appeal to me, I will Follow back.

Coffee….more….coffee. Ahhhhhh…

If you’re a neophyte Peeker™ Leigh and I welcome you to your initial peeks through the keyhole. I strongly encourage you to view all of the established Pages, which can be viewed by selecting any of the tabs at the top of this page.

The Archives are an inclusive, running version of every post of note on this blog. If you have not read any or all of the stories, random musings, poetry, etc linked from The Archives by all means please grab a seat, perhaps some coffee (we’re big on coffee), sit back and enjoy.

So hoping I stay awake long enough to Publish this, here is this week’s Peek Back:

Interview With A Submission Vampire Vol.1 No.10 – Avid Peeker™ Kayla Lords wanted to know if we employed punishment in our D/s relationship. Now she knows the answer and why.

Monday Coffee Kickstart – Random musings on random topics with a barely functioning Dominant in need of a caffeine fix.

We’re Pink Leather Unicorn Awesome! Twice! – The most unique blog award image yet, more Scot  trivia (sigh) and a list of fucking awesome blogs you need to check out.

What Subspace Feels Like – The Fates decided we should hear this song. It shook us, as well as others from all the Comments.

I Inspired A Coffee Nooner – An off the cuff comment to romance author Miya Kressin on Twitter inspired her to write some java smut! You will never drink a latte the same every again, trust me.

Others Agree Subspace Feels Like That – Our .02 on the aforementioned song and subsequent post gets a feature mention in an ePaper!

Chain Of Rules Act IV – This latest act of the Chain Of Rules story focuses on two of Leigh’s most magnificent attributes not called eyes.

Seek And Go Hyde Act III – How hot is this? I needed to change my shirt after writing it. The Comments agree – probably the most scalding Act I’ve written thus far. Whew!

Just Cry – A very personal and special erotic poem for my doll, trying to capture a very personal and special moment.

I think I have the energy to click Publish. Maybe another cup of coffee will ensure you all read this today.

– Scot

We’re Pink Leather Unicorn Awesome! Twice!

And proud of it!

It’s official – The Dom Next Door™ is, according to the lovely and enchanting Alice of the Story Of Alice, a META Awesomest Blog!

The META Awesomest Blog

Per Alice the award is “the silliest picture in existence.” Truer words may have never been blogged.

Alice’s blog is a beautifully painted world filled with lovely musings, all featuring a cast of very interesting characters. She and I had a most interesting discussion one time about her Chris and the fact that he may indeed be an angel among us. And please do yourself a favor and click the link provided above to her blog. Her acceptance page for this most unique award is probably the most innocently erotic and beautiful award page I’ve read. And yes, the rest of her blog reads like that as well.

But wait, there’s more!

What are the odds of receiving not just one muscular, pink leather clad, purple feather mohawked unicorn award but TWO muscular, pink leather clad, purple feather mohawked unicorn awards within a 24 hour period? Because right on Alice’s heels (that’s a nice visual) Lo and HH at MySexLifeWithLola did just that as well as nominated us for the Beautiful Blogger Award!

Beautiful Blogger Award III

Per their own equally beautiful blog Lola is a “feminist, lover, exhibitionist, nymphomaniac woman.” HH writes about what its like to be the guy to a feminist, lover, exhibitionist, nymphomaniac woman. And does so very well. In an open, eclectic format their adventures, thoughts, musings, stories, imagery and poems make for a very naughty blog curry full of spice. Check them out if you get the chance.

We love to receive these. It’s a compliment from one’s blogging peers, peers that we think of highly. To disregard such a lovely gesture I feel is rude. So we humbly accept both awards.

But with each comes rules. First the ones for the Beautiful Blogger:

The Rules

1. Include the award logo somewhere in your blog. (See the Trophy Shelf for all our awards and links to the acceptance pages)
2. Answer 10 questions you have about yourself (More Scot Trivia…sigh)
3. Nominate 10 to 12 blogs you enjoy. Or you pick the number. (I’ll pick the number)
4. Pay the love forward: Provide your nominee’s link in your post and comment on their blog to let them know they’ve been included and invited to participate.
5. Pay the love back with gratitude and a link to the blogger(s) who nominated you.

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OK, so ten more answers to questions about The Dom Next Door™:

– The most expensive bottle of wine I’ve been privy to taste was a Penfold’s Shiraz Cab with a value of just under $300. And yes, it was that fucking good. I licked my lips for thirty minutes after.
– I’ve eaten cheese steaks at both Pat’s and Geno’s within minutes of each other. Just waked across the street from Geno’s to Pat’s and stood where Rocky Balboa did. My verdict? By a whisker Pat’s is better. I realize I may lose Peekers™ as a result of that admission.
– I’ve yelled “OPIE!!!!” across the street at a waving Ron Howard.
– As a result of sports injuries I have disfigured digits, on a hand and foot each. Not saying which digit(s), how many or which hand or foot.
– If you haven’t figured it out by now I’m primarily a cat person, although JD is fucking awesome.
– A family member helped build the Superdome in Louisiana, but not in Louisiana.
– Bagpipes and drums fucking fire me up.
– My whole life I have received compliments from women about my hair. Leigh loves how soft it is.
– Among my most cherished possessions are the hand written recipes of ancestors I both knew and only know via photos.
– I once drove 257 miles one way to see a high school football game. My friend’s team won.
– Cold does not bother me nearly as much as it does most people.
– By anyone’s standards I have some very, very dark secrets. And we’ll leave it at that.

Now for the META Awesome Blogger Award. Alice said I could do what I want…heh. That is very dangerous.

I think what I will do is that I’ll nominate the following blogs as both Awesome AND Beautiful, but with a catch:

If you are mentioned below, in order to accept this combo award you MUST share as part of your acceptance which story on The Dom Next Door is your favorite and why. I’m always curious to see what appeals to others and the reason(s) it does. So, with that caveat, my nominations:

Blogs I Think Are Awesome AND Beautiful

LIfe Under A Firm Hand – Mrs. Soft Bottom’s gorgeous blog about her and Mr. Firm Hand’s journey as a married couple into D/s.

Exploring Surrender – Conina lovingly writes and shares about her and her husband’s journey into BDSM and D/s.

You Linger Like A Haunting Refrain – Fatal, our very first Peeker™, has a scorching blog. Asbestos screen suggested.

Deviant Diaries – Ms. D. What can I say? Someday a lucky Dom will be able to call her His. Make sure you’re in line to follow along when it happens.

Of Glass And Paper – The keyboard on Sisyphus47’s computer is lucky. The words that flow…damn.

A Dissolute Life – Possibly the rawest blog I follow. Hyacinth is brutally honest. The blog equivalent of how a ripped off bandage feels. And she has some toe curling sexual escapades.

Undue Creativity – CC, one of our most ardent Peekers™, also write a helluva blog. She’ll see her name on a spine of a book in the naughty section someday. You can get a peek at the heat in between those covers to be now. Do it.

Love Sex and Marriage – LSAM writes a brutally frank, scorchingly erotic and musingly interesting blog about what its like to be married and a submissive to her hubby M.

Vanity Card Archives – Aside from being a great teacher, Agatha-Luise is also a very talented writer and equally naughty at heart.

Vagina Antics – In short, Heather Cole and Nikki Blue are two of the funniest, wittiest, sexiest, raunchiest, drinkingest vagina owners blogging anywhere.

A Sexual Being – Like hot? Kayla Lord’s blog is that with a touch of sweetness.

DD and D/s – Bella blogs about what its like embracing, well, DD and D/s. Salacious commentary, and they also share the warts with the kisses and spanks.

Mew Tube – Kyle is the James Brown of naughty WordPress blogs. His likes, comments and blogging put us all to shame. A wildly eclectic naughty stew of random kinkiness.

Turning Off The Red Light – Miss Red is a former lady of the evening trying to start over. Her journey is raw, sexy and fascinating.

Deviant Wench – Another married, kinky, submissive feminist (her words) sharing her D/s and BDSM journey. Another blog that requires fireproof screens for viewing. Another blog you should check out.

We’re All Mad Inhere – QuantumPhysica is a real life “Girl Interrupted”. I adore this blog. She is fascinating, brilliant, admittedly psychotic and also very naughty.

Temperature’s Rising – It is very possible Mrs. Fever and I are somehow related in that we are so much alike. Smartass extraordinaire, kinkster par excellence. A year from now she’ll have 1000+ Followers. Get in line, trust me.

Creative Noodling – Marian can write. Hot. Paints beautifully crafted scenes via brushstrokes of words. Tell her Glenn said “Hi.”

PostGlow – The new kink on the block. Suqui’s blog is another female submissive driven one, but she drives fast and hard. I’m glad I chanced across her.

I could have kept going. Hopefully we’ll been deemed worthy of more kudos, which will give me the opportunity to add to this list.

Thank you again Alice, Lo & HH!

– Scot and Leigh

Monday’s Java Tastes The Best

Good morning all you kinky bastards.

Coffee really does taste better on Monday mornings. Maybe its the wear of the weekend slamming head on into the reality of 6am Monday. Who knows? But it takes on more meaning when you really need it.

What a week. What a fucking week. I don’t even know where to begin. The not even one week old weekly views record was destroyed by a 50% increase in views.

And that is enough of numbers from me, at least for the time being. Do I like seeing views increase? Hell yeah. But I’d rather have active, curious, interesting Peekers™. And what a bunch of kinky, perverted, twisted voyeurs you all are.

I do not want, nor will I allow, this blog to ever, EVER become all about the page views. I appreciate them, I try to be active to create worthy content, I make attempts to write twice a day during the week, but it will not become one of those cookie-cutter blogs that blurs the lines between Twitter, Tumblr, Pinterest, Facebook, etc. to create meh content solely to make page views spike. I even chose to not write last Saturday in that my brain resembled poorly cooked oatmeal after a long day at work. And rather than word vomit a thousand or so meh cold verbal lumps into a story, I just said “Fuck it!” and went off to bed.

With Leigh. I chose wisely. You’ll be reading about that evening soon.

I know I do not get to everyone’s blogs as often as I would like. WordPress Reader is simply retched. When I get the chance to add everyone’s blogs I will migrate to Google Reader. That should help me in my efforts to support everyone else’s efforts.

On those efforts a humble suggestion: regardless of how interesting the topic or how well written it may be, if your 1000+ word blog post has only three or so paragraphs I am not going to read it. Sorry if that pisses you off, but 600 word paragraphs? Really?

On that note:

– The reaction via the comments to Can Submission Be Dominated was nothing short of amazing. Including my replies we’re over fifty comments on this single post. And what Comments! Eloquent, well crafted, multi-100 word replies abound. So many thoughts from a variety of views. I honestly feel the Comments are now more important than the post! Please, if you have not done so yet, check this post out and make sure to see how amazing Peeker Nation™ is.

– Leigh opened the bedroom door yesterday during our Selfish Sunday™. How? Well, we’ll just say that the families of tourists not twenty feet on either flank of us had any idea I was slowly tweeking the nipple of Leigh’s exposed breast. My gentle over the snug tank top ministrations were rewarded with an unveiling, lovely sighs, moans and the exquisite knowledge that not only was Leigh embracing on the sly exhibitionism but clandestine public carnal knowledge as well.

I respected her hard limit about this up to the point she exposed herself. But with this step future adventures will be taken, not just offered. She’s already thinking about increasing her skirt and dress wardrobe for ease of access. Game on…

– A Peeker™ asked me to CP (crit partner) a potential BDSM blog post. I’ve never been a CP in this manner before (I have read Leigh’s efforts per her request). To be thought of enough to be asked to do so was very humbling.

– I am trying very hard (heh) to keep the Acts of the various stories flowing.

– Its official. I have the writing bug. It starts to gnaw at me. Quote Leigh – “Welcome to my world!”

– Also the worst kept secret is out. Yes, there are plans for writing THE book. It will happen. It will not be fiction. It will make you laugh hard while also desiring to read it one-handed. Think Keillor meets de Sade.

– I will have my first piece of erotic fiction So Tell Me available as a self published eShort by October. There. I said it. Now I have to finish it.

– Leigh’s ass is frustrating both of us. I beat on it for an hour this past Saturday and the next morning all she had as a souvenir were some mild surface abrasions. And I mean BEAT. She likes seeing the bruises and welts, as do I. What to do, what to do…

– If you live near a farmer’s market or the like and are not supporting them, shame on you. Go. Buy only what you will eat that night. Your health, wallet and especially taste buds are welcome.

– Remember my Dominating Soccer Mom & her teenie? Did the same thing again to the manager of an indie book store. Quote as I handed her the same five words (“The Siren” by Tiffany Reisz) “This is the book that other series wishes it was.”

– I was unaware of the comments being left by those who have voted for us as Best Bondage Blog over at bondageawards.com. Leigh mentioned that I should read what others were saying. I did.

Wow…

I know I say it a lot, but I was humbled to the core. The Comments were touching. Thank you all for sharing such sentiments and for taking the time to vote (it’s not too late to do so if you haven’t).

As for the blog:

This week I WILL make it to Dom Depot to take the photos needed for the next BDSM On A Budget installment. You will all get to meet The Chains™ (as featured in Chain Of Rules) and their friends, as well as my easy tutorial on inexpensive bondage with expensive looking and performing results. That story and Breaking Leigh will continue to be updated (can you believe we’ll be on Act X soon?) I’m learning more about Hyde and will comment on such (and hopefully some new stories in which He showed up last week. Twice).

There may also be the first book review on TDND™ as I am rereading a BDSM one that has given me, with the gift of hindsight, some eye opening affirmations. Another Peeker™ may be Unchained (it is in process). I owe Leigh a poem. And I may even comment about a certain book series that has everyone in an uproar.

And with that I need more coffee. It’s Monday, ya know.

– Scot

A Peek Back 7-21

Good morning all.

To say this was quite the week at TDND™ would be a gross understatement. Not only did we see daily page views skyrocket (as of yesterday a new weekly views record had been established! And with two more days to go in the week!) but so many other milestones as well:

  • Twitter Followers are now over 200
  • We broke right through 10,000 views since the blog’s inception
  • Peeker™ Nation soared past 300 and is well on its way to 400
  • We set a new daily record for Likes
  • We received our 1000th Comment
  • We were nominated for a major kinky blogging award!
  • Someone new will be Unchained in the near future

You may notice I often mention being humbled in my replies here and on Twitter.

I mean it. Seriously.

Thank you all for embracing Leigh and I, our adventures along the way on our journey together, and by so spreading (bad Dom joke) the word about us. We really, truly appreciate our perverted minions.

I’d be remiss in not mentioning how special last night was online. The activities that followed behind a closed bedroom door were equally as special (A certain someone came out of Hyding). But the reaction, quality, quantity, eloquence, passion and sheer volume of comments on Can Submission Be Dominated was nothing short of amazing. I still have Comments to be queued and replied to! Sadly my real life today precludes the likelihood of my doing so this morning. I will get to all of them. So on with show.

For you new perverts, every Saturday AM I share A Peek Back. This feature of TDND™ allows long time Followers as well as you first time Peekers™ to quickly review what has transpired over the past seven days.

If you are a neophyte Peeker™ I strongly encourage you to view all of the established Pages, which can be viewed by selecting any of the tabs at the top of this page.

The Archives are an inclusive, running version of every post of note on this blog. If you have not read any or all of the stories, random musings, poetry, etc linked from The Archives by all means please grab a seat, perhaps some coffee, sit back and enjoy.

Is that enough foreplay? No? I respect that. Here is this week’s Peek Back: (note: links to the referenced posts are in the click throughs)

Hyde Gets Picked Up – My erotic poem about/for/with Hyde is featured in an ePaper. (link to the poem in the click through)

2012 Bondage Awards Nominee! – TDND™ as Best Bondage Blog? Stunned…

Interview With A Submission Vampire Vol.1 No.8 – Everything you always wanted to know about nipple rings

Leigh On Spanking – My lovely better half makes a rare blog post by answering the spanking meme. I even learned a few things!

The Monday Morning After With Coffee – Java musings with a barely awake Dominant. It often gets funky.

Breaking Leigh Act VII – Leigh is down to her silky white panties.

Chain Of Rules – The newest story on the blog. Cuffs, collars and chains…oh my!

Scot The BILF…What? – Without question the most unique award we have received. Features five suggestions from me.

Chain Chain Chain Of Rules Measures Up – Our newest story get a feature mention in a bondage ePaper!

Breaking Leigh Act VIII – A whole post on the delight of removing The Panties™ from Leigh’s very sore ass

What Topspace Looks Like (A Love Letter To Leigh) – An actual love email from myself to Leigh.

Chain Of Rules Act II – Meet The Chains™.

Can Submission Be Dominated? – My musings on a touchy subject. Still stunned at how well this was received and the beauty of all the Comments.

Again, thank you all.

– Scot

Chain, Chain, Chain Of Rules Measures Up

(apologies to Miss Aretha for my tongue in cheek title)

It is always nice to have one’s blogging peers appreciate your efforts. Chain Of Rules, our newest multi-Act story, was selected as a feature story in the latest issue of The Bondage Times ePaper!

This ePub is put out by Kobal1 over at Bondage-Engineering.com. The site is amazing in its scope. Check it out if you are into all that which restricts movement.

It’s also no mistake that they are also up for a slew (nine!) of Bondage Awards, including the same one that TDND™ is (Best Bondage Blog). If you haven’t voted yet, please consider doing so. Let the cries, moans, gagged screams and begging for release of Peeker™ Nation be heard loud!

Thank you again for the humbling honor of being a Feature story, Kobal1!

– Scot

Scot The BILF…What?

When you read that I say I’m blushing, it’s not bullshit.

So when I read (about a month after the fact) that LSAM of Love Sex And Marriage nominated me for this:

BILF Award

I not only blushed at the obvious but also that I had been thought of so for three weeks and didn’t know!

Seriously? Me?

First, thank you so much LSAM! Their blog is one of the few, like ours, that shares the journey between a married D/s couple, and they do so with wit, eroticism, humor and honesty. If you are not familiar with them I highly recommend checking them out.

But a BILF?

I wrestled with this. Whatever comes across via words on a screen, I have never, ever thought of myself in any sort of -ILF manner, including as I type. I am Leigh’s husband, her guy, best friend and when the bedroom door closes her Sir.

And yes, I’m blushing right now as I grasp at words to convey how I feel.

But it would be extremely rude to not accept such a personal award based on my own views about how I see myself. It is by far the most unique one TDND™ has received so far. So, with a red face and a grin I humbly accept The Sexy Blogger Award.

According to the rules of this award, I am supposed to:

1. Post five sexy suggestions (Oh, thank goodness not more Scot Trivia!)
2. Post a link to my sexiest blog post
3. Nominate five other sexy bloggers
4. Let the nominees know they’re sexy

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Five Sexy Suggestions

– You do not need expensive toys to add spice and kink to your sex life. All you need is an open mind, some imagination and a little creativity. The entire premise of our BDSM On A Budget series is a testament to this. Kink was around long before electricity was harnessed. A collection of scarves can be a veritable treasure trove of erotic possibilities. Ice cubes can be objects that induce fear and arousal. As I have always said “Close your eyes, open your mind and your thighs will follow.”

– That said, do not let fear or timidness rule the bedroom. If you are curious about shibari, invest in some good books and DVDs and a shit ton of the best rope you can buy. Electro stimulation sound interesting? Hello TENS Unit, and not the bargain basement one. Sometimes a collar is not a collar, especially if its fur-lined with three stainless steel rings on professionally sewn leather. So what if you have to tell your best friend “If anything ever happens to me, get that fucking black trunk from my bedroom and toss it in the river ASAP!” Do not go quietly into the eternal night wondering what it would have been like to have had hot wax dripped all over you (or on your other) from the finest low temperature candles. Do it!

– Much of WIITWD is, if you think about it, grown ups playing very, very adult versions of games we all played as kids. Doctor anyone? Tie up games? Truth or Dare? See who can whatever for the longest time? Just because there are more lines on your face doesn’t mean you have to act a certain way. Embrace your inner child. Remember how curious you were about everything, especially “that?” How exciting the simplest things were? The amusement park your body was, with your imagination the “YOU MUST BE AS DEMENTED AS…TO RIDE” sign? Play with each other like you did when you had not a care in the world, but do so with the benefit of the years of experience you have and the rights you enjoy as consenting adults. It will do your heart, soul and reproductive organs good.

– People in better physical shape can fuck each other better, longer, faster, harder and more often that those who get winded taking the escalator. Think about that.

– Seduce your other. Have an affair with your spouse. Cheat on your mate with your mate. The embers from those early flames are still there. They may be buried under decades of ash from bills, a mortgage, maybe kids, but they still glow. Ironically, if you listen to the first four Sexy Suggestions this fifth one will likely just happen, as it did for us.

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Our Sexiest Blog Post

Wow, tough one to answer! It’s like asking a parent which child is your favorite?

While it may surprise you, I think the poetry I write for Leigh is the sexiest. Please visit The Archives for links to all the erotic poetry on the site. But if we (I asked Leigh as well) to pick just one story, we both have a soft (hard?) spot for Away Games. That’s the story that started all of this, the one we lived while the blog was getting eight views a day. It was a magically moment in our lives.

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Nominate Five Other BILFs

If you have anxiously read through all of the above waiting to read who I think is a BILF…

…you are going to be disappointed.

Unbeknownst to LSAM when she chose me, this topic is a strict hard limit of Leigh’s. When TDND™ started  the two of us, as we do when we scene, established protocols. These included social networking hard limits as far as to what manner or degree comments can go. In the early days of TDND™ Leigh would let me know if I was “yellow” or “red” with a comment either here or on Twitter.

What can I say? I fucking love the fact that she has made it perfectly clear that I am her guy and hers only. She’s selfish and protective and its cool. So yeah, I totally respect her wishes. I hope this did not offend anyone, but to be honest if it does I really do not care. She’s my doll, I’m her Sir, and that is that. And I sincerely hope that no one thinks any less of Leigh as a result. If you do, you are more than welcome to Unfollow us.

But let’s not end this on a sour note. I am sincerely humbled and, as you know, embarrassed to be thought of this way. Thank you again LSAM!

– Scot