BDSM On A Budget – The Chains™

Admit it, you watch “those” videos.

You know, the ones that are done professionally by pay-for-view sites. Famous bondage and/or adult actresses being restrained in a dungeon setting that all but the most serious or financially independent devotee of BDSM can afford, or at least hide.

Shackles everywhere. Pulleys capable of suspending livestock abound. Enough rope to outfit a four masted schooner. Leather cuffs and collars, steel spreader bars with all the connections. Cages. Fucking machines. Tables and racks right out of the Spanish Inquisition.

Their business is kink, and business is good. Especially after the success of a certain neutral hued book series.

I will bet that most couple’s virgin explorations of bondage began with something innocent, like a scarf or belt. Which in turn will lead to either experimenting with rope or that pink nylon bondage set from Adam & Eve, which will in the future be best known as the reason they get naughty catalogs in discreet envelopes every month.

Rope is sexy. It’s timeless, the classic. But unless you are already skilled in knot tying there is going to be a learning curve, as well as the specter of those fumblings in the dark with knots pulled taut or made too tight. Ligature marks are cool as fuck, but cutting off circulation and nerve damage aren’t, not to mention the tick tick ticking of the mood clock when either occurs.

I admit that I am trying to learn rope bondage, and for all the above you will not be reading about it here until I am confidant in not just my abilities but also grasp of the intricacies of what to tie where and why.

That is why I use this:

The Chains

If you want to know exactly what that is:

Chain Description

That is the shelf tag from a Home Depot (otherwise known in kink circles as Dom Depot) for what has been referred to on this blog as simply The Chains™. Like how shiny they are? Me too. And see that price? A whopping $1.67 a foot.

And they will cut it to length for you. Free. “You Can Do It. We Can Help.” Heh.

Is any of this sinking in yet? Are you grinning? I hope so.

Now before we go any further, what I am about to share with you as far as being able to enjoy professional quality bondage at a bargain basement price right in the privy of your own bedroom will require some serious leather bondage cuffs and a collar. You will not regret this investment. Don’t skimp on these. Your submissive deserves the best, it will give both of you countless hours of enjoyment and its safe. Plus its just fucking hot.

So back to Dom Depot. Armed with the aforementioned SKU/shelf talker information get as many lengths of pre-cut chain as you wish. As of this moment The Chains™ at TDND™ World Headquarters consist of:

  • Four 1′ lengths (great for  hog tying, ankle/ankle, wrist/wrist, or to connect to a collar)
  • Two 2′ lengths (a couple more of these are going to happen soon)
  • One 3′ length (I could use a few more of this length also)

Plus ten of these double ended, bolt action snap hooks (two came with the bondage cuffs):

Stainless Steel Fasteners

If you have ever owned a dog you know exactly what these are and how to use them. And make sure they are stainless steel so they match your chain lengths.

Everything I described above in the quantities indicated didn’t even come to $35 (excluding the cuffs and collar). Think about that when perusing the web or that naughty, indiscreetly mailed catalog for bondage toys.

For this post we will assume the majority of play is going to happen in bed. Future posts will discuss taking your new chain bondage skills elsewhere.

Just like the good folks at Dom Depot will do all the length work for you gratis, your mattress manufacturer also was nice enough to provide, at no additional cost, the perfect way to secure your submissive to the bed. Remember when you moved that mattress in and you had to carry it up a flight of stairs by those four handles securely attached a few feet from each corner?

Grinning again, aren’t you?

Follow these simple steps and you will have a bondage set-up that will look and sound (this is one area chain kicks rope’s ass) like those videos you watch when you should be working.

  • Per the information on the cuffs and collars link above, outfit your submissive with leather wrist and ankle bondage cuffs as well as a three ring leather bondage collar.
  • Take one each of the snap hooks and attach to each of the handles on your mattress.
  • Attach one of the same to each ankle and wrist cuff

Now let your imagination wander. The possibilities are almost endless as to how, where and with what you can render your submissive immobile. And you don’t even need to use all the chains! Snap hooking a wrist cuff to its corresponding ankle cuff requires all of two snap hooks that can clicked into place in seconds.

This is the hidden beauty of using chain over rope. It’s effortless to change set-ups and quickly. No fumbling with knots, or untying to retie. No skill set to acquire or master. It can be shortened or lengthened by a link with speed and ease as well.

I will often, at the end of a scene when its my turn to satisfy my physical needs, snap hook each of Leigh’s wrists to her ankles, then  chain those to the rings on her collar. Aside from being rendered spread eagle and helpless she can also relax in that all her limbs are now free of weight bearing.

Or connect each ankle with a 2′ length, then push it higher…and higher. I can even use my chest to pull her wider this way as I fuck her obscenely open cunt at my whim.

If you feel so inclined, some convenient eye hooks screwed into the rear of a headboard, or a bed frame leg, could provide countless more opportunities.

Your imagination is your limit as far as what you can do quickly, easily, in seconds and with a look, feel and sound that you see on those videos you really shouldn’t be watching at work. Positioning, access, ease of or rigidity or movement. And when it’s all over some unclicking and it all stores neatly and compactly onto itself. We use an old pillowcase and everything I mentioned fits in it with ease.

Chain bondage. We’re hooked on it.

– Scot

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14 responses to “BDSM On A Budget – The Chains™

  1. If you want to learn a bit more about rope bondage, there are a lot of excellent books.

    We use Two Knotty Boys Show You The Ropes–it has all the safety information you need, teaches you all the basic knots, and starts with easy ties.

    Chain is awesome, but rope has uses too 😉

    • I do want to learn more. Leigh has expressed an openness to shibari, which makes me swoon. Not suspension but rather rope play as an art form that would allow her to enjoy becoming rope drunk.

  2. “a certain neutral hued book series”
    LOL – now they’re putting those covers on everyone else’s books. Makes me sad.
    Love coming here for an education. Excellent post!

    • Just a continuation of the Twilight design. Truth be told I like the clean, crisp minimalist cover designs. I think it was Tiffany Riesz who Tweeted about YA covers always being “white girls in dresses.” She’s right!

      • I like it too – just unfortunate that it’s always going to be associated with THAT!
        The YA covers are ridiculous. The book could be about a serial killer, and still there’ll be a girl in a princess dress on the cover.

  3. I have purchased some bondage rope and a couple of books on the subject. With the exception of a few basic ties I am a novice, but it intrigues me so I will learn. Better to do it right I always say.
    Thanks for the Home Depot prices, LOL. 🙂

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